Dear Poor You,
This has to stop. Immediately.
I see your Facebook posts. The ones that say, “Nobody loves me”, “Will I ever find a guy to make me happy?”, “Nobody would even care if I died.”; all of them. This kind of behavior is unacceptable.
Nobody would dare to call me a sensitive person; at least not as sensitivity pertains to the happiness of healthy, capable people. Like you. So, when I see or hear you complaining about how your life has no meaning because you’re not in a relationship, I want to punch you in the throat. SNAP OUT OF IT!
So, your relationship ended. So, you’ve been single for most of the year. Big deal! Relationships end everyday and single people are everywhere. You’re not alone. Your situation is not unique. Move on.
I am a firm believer in the “walk it off” philosophy. Get up, dust yourself off and get going.
You say you don’t know if you’ll ever be truly happy?
I’m sorry but if YOU don’t know, then I’m afraid no one else will be able to help you either.
Your happiness does not depend on anyone but yourself. Period. No person should have that kind of power of your life and if they do, then it’s not really your life anyway, so there’s no reason for it to trouble you.
Happiness isn’t a prize won when you say, “I do”. Relationships don’t equal automatic bliss. That job you’ve been hoping for won’t grant you instant felicity; neither will the money, the cars, or the clothes (or the hoes *in my Drake voice*).
Happiness starts with you. If you aren’t happy with yourself then how can you expect anyone else to be?
How do you reach true happiness, you ask?
Open your eyes. Can’t you see how blessed you are?
There are people all over the world who would graciously accept your problems in exchange for your blessings. A good job, a home, a family, awesome friends that are ready to reassure you the instant you start to question yourself. You’re healthy, smart, beautiful, and you are the only person who doesn’t think so.
Life is too short and there are far too many amazing things in it to enjoy for you to waste time with your “poor me’s”.
You don’t need a boyfriend to transform you into a complete and worthwhile person. You are complete and worthwhile all on your own.
I cannot say that you will ever meet “the one”. That’s a promise I would not even make to myself. I can say; however, that with or without him, your life is worth living.
You need to see that for yourself.
Stop assessing the value of your life against the blessings of others.
You have your own blessings to count.
P.S. Next time it will be a punch in the throat.